Saturday, October 06, 2012

Of headaches and heartaches

I guess this is a season of sadness. So many people I know are going through a rough phase in their lives - some have serious health issues, some have family problems, some have financial crisis and some are heartbroken. And some people are not in any of these situation, but are the ones who patiently listen to whatever the other lot has to say. 

No it's not obligatory to listen to rants, but we are one selfish specie. We think about us too. We know that some day or the other we will need people too when we feel low, and we will need them too. Or we will need them when we want to share happiness. We stay around with people for one simple motive - we need them. If not now then some other time.

I guess that's where we want unconditional relationships at times. There are people you need, but you might not be able to give that back when time comes. Or maybe that's just a matter of convenience for us. Who would not like a friendship or relationship with no strings attached? But one does tend to get attached at some point in time and the same unconditional relationship becomes complicated.

Relationships are about understanding more than arrangements. When you don't expect anything from a person, you should ask yourself where you are really attached to him/her or not, for expectations are a part of affection. You want to talk to the person, or you want him/her to leave you alone - well that would be expectations too right?

We have weird ways of showing our misery. Some people cry, some just go underground, some get drunk and talk, some don't talk at all. A friend recently blamed another friend for his break up with a girl two years ago. This girl is getting married to someone else. When he got to know about it, he suddenly realized that he still had feelings for her. I guess it was convenient for him to pass on the blame to someone else, but the other person was really hurt. When we are in pain, we don't realize what we are talking about. We say things without thinking and it may leave an everlasting impact on others.

Anyway, talking about me, I used to get a headache when I was low. That kind of took away all the opportunities to express what I was feeling, for I used to be down with a headache. Even now when I am slightly stressed about work or life, I get a headache. 

And it's good to blame it on age. I am going to be 30 by this year end. I can't believe I have lived for 30 years already. It seems like such a short period. There is so much I have done already and still it's not even 1% of the things I want to do. There is still a lot of time, but if 30 years can pass without my realizing much then I am sure the next 25 30 years will pass too.

I think I should make a to do list.


  1. Getting attached in any relationship is a matter of genuine feelings.When one gets it ,one gets a " Signal" in ones mind.
    That is a msg from God.Take it or leave it

  2. Neha,

    What is true friendship? To be there to share your happiness with friends and support them in time of their sadness. Of course, such friends are hard to come and are very very limited. We surely need each other, even if one gets attached over a period as that is normal. One can not just say that we be with each other only in the time of need.

    Take care

  3. one girl called aysha manaal on facebook is using your blog stuff as hers. Beware.

  4. "Relationships are about understanding more than arrangements."

    Sometimes arrangements turn into relationships. Yet others times relationships are mere arrangements.

    As is usual, the truth lies inbetween. Advance birthday wishes. And heres to the list that you will be making ! :)

  5. R.E.L.A.T.I.O.N.S.H.I.P.S..........The start and end of life..strewn with all the adjectives to describe every feeling you can think of

  6. They come. They go. I guess that's how most of us describe it. Cliched! That "Live with it" attitude. I personally think you can not hold relationships. For the lone reason that everyone has egos to pamper and that's why relationships shouldn't be forever. It's like you get bored of something and you're on to the next one.

  7. Sadness is a fact.Those who bear with it or neglect it succeed. Those succumb to it bear a frown on the face.