Tuesday, November 08, 2011

Why judge?

This blog-world always manages to amuse me. When you are good friends with bloggers, and talk to them more or less on regular basis, and you are girls, then stories are bound to be discussed. If you have been blogging for more than a year, you tend to develop a bond with your readers. You may communicate with them through other mediums like mails, chats, facebook and such else.

I have a few friends too whom I met through blogging, but I talk to them even outside the blogs, more or less on regular basis. And we discuss about various things. One of such topics was about the blog content. I have a personal blog, so do most of the people I follow. Though rarely, but we do discuss blogs, especially when we have a post that's inspired by some conversation or comments.

One such discussion I'd had with a blogger friend about her style of blogging. Someone told her that she came across as a very different person from what she really is in real life. Well, it was a bit surprising to hear it as people have so much time to analyze posts and compare the real you and the blogger you!

Talking about me, even though I have a personal blog and I am honest about what I write here, I may not always write about my feelings for that particular subject matter, I am sure most of us don't do that. Thus judging a person from blogpost is not too accurate.

A person may write all sober stuff on blog, but in real life his/her sentence may not be starting without any abuse. A rude person on blog would actually be very humble and vice versa. And common, unless you want to settle down with that person, why would you bother about how that person writes/sounds on his/blog?

These social networking sites have spoilt us. We take them way too seriously. I was one of them too. Such things really mattered to me earlier. I took the social networking sites way too seriously. It really mattered to me what people did and what was happening in their lives. I have come out of that stage now. I don't even know what I have on my profile. I have disabled all e-mail notifications. I don't even know these days how many comments are there on each my post. 5 on an average per post? Or maybe less. I do get a lot of page views even today. And followers keep increasing too, but no comments as I don't read them. Don't I miss that?

Another discussion I'd had was about typos. I know so many people who make at least 3 typos per sentence. Some of these typos are classic. Some of them are a result of auto-correct too. This typo story deserves a separate post. Until then, STOP JUDGING!


  1. You are right. Though we have personal blogs, it's not necessary that we are what we write there.

    Anyways, am glad to have found great friends through blogging and that's what matters eventually... writing for the love of it and connecting with like-minded people :)

  2. yes, judging a person from his/her blog is definitely not right!
    a written space is a freedom with expression-you can exaggerate or go with any flow!

    and great that you've been able to come out of the social network addiction!:-)

  3. Well said! They say, when you judge another person, you do not define them, you define yourself!!
    And last night, I was reading a book, where the protagonist was judging people by their emails!!

  4. After i got on twitter,I realized that social networking sites are a Bimari.
    As for judging a blogger,well, I would hate do so but there is no way one can change the mind set who have enough time to waste

  5. There is no way one can judge a person from the blogposts...Virtual world is beautiful exciting and scary all at the same time.
    Will wait for the typo story.

  6. Why judge.. absolutely right.. enjoy writing, reading and mast raho!!

  7. very true... we can not judge a person from his/her blog or social networking profile. And yeah, social media is a FEVER and we need to get rid of it. It is useless and we have many more productive jobs to do instead of wasting time on SM platforms.

  8. Couldn't agree more! Never judge a person through their writings. You never really know their true face untill you know them by person, even that doesn't assure you a thing! Unless one can do precise face reading.

    Speaking about social networks, it has effected our lives so much that we keep clinging on it. Every single thing posted leaves a deep footstep in ourselves, leaving us in despair and contemplation. Unnecessary 'work out' I would say. I wish I could click on the disable button like you, not now, but I guess very soon.

    Keep posting! :)

  9. Interesting viewpoints there...agree with almost all of them ;)

  10. True. Live and let live. Blog and let blog.

  11. Even if we write exactly what we feel, this is only one small aspect of all that we are, so I agree, 'Don't Judge'.

  12. When you write, all what matters is the purity of expressions and not that of the writer. Simple!

  13. This is one good reason why blogs exist, it's a good way to say what we think and feel. Thank you for sharing this article.