Comments on Neha's Blog: Perverts, Go die!

Hey Neha Told you this before, i love your blog! I...

2012-01-22T23:03:56.997+05:30

Hey Neha Told you this before, i love your blog! I've awarded you the Versatile Blogger Award. Check it out on http://aasheianaa.blogspot.com
under the post tiltled "and then there was recognition"
XOXO

Neha, Read 2 posts now. Please do take care of yo...

2012-01-18T21:26:08.181+05:30

Neha,

Read 2 posts now. Please do take care of your health even if it means visiting a doctor. It is a pity that even those who are witness to such unwanted uncivil behaviour of such persons remain mute looking the other way. I have not traveled by bus for a very long time ( though by Metro a couple of times where the crowd was unexpectedly well behaved ) but I do remember an incident which happened many years ago in a bus. A girl who was standing few persons ahead of me
suddenly turned around loudly telling a youngman behind her " TUMNE TO MAZAA KAR LIYA AB MERI BAARI HAI " and she made a grab at his groin. That person turned red and started mumbling something like " BEHNJI, MAAF KARDO". Most of such persons are spineless and turn into jelly when faced with a strong girl who can speak their language. And that made a number of persons in the bus beat that youngman up.

Take care

Our embarassment and disgust keep us mum and that&...

2012-01-17T14:37:56.685+05:30

Our embarassment and disgust keep us mum and that's exactly how these perverts hope it will be. We (and decent men) should get together in blogosphere and come up with a sensible and foolproof action plan that defeats these low lives. We should - along with lots of witnesses - somehow force the police to register cases of harassment. Fear of the law is the only way to make this creepy behaviour stop.

Hi There..have to come to your place after ages an...

2012-01-16T17:59:32.273+05:30

Hi There..have to come to your place after ages and found this post about incidents which nearly all women in India have experienced at least once in their life.

I understand your pain, anger and frustration and share it too. I always wonder whether these men ever stop and think that some other man must be doing the exact same thing to their sister, mother, aunt or cousin.

Oh my God! I just so love your post!! Every word, ...

2012-01-14T12:48:57.928+05:30

Oh my God! I just so love your post!! Every word, every single word which you have mentioned, I can totally relate with it.
Even I have come across such incidents. The Delhi Metros are no less, if by chance you stand there in the general compartment then you always find such hungry wolves waiting to squeeze and press against you.
Its such a shame! Such perverts should actually be shot.

You are bang on about the experiences faced by wom...

2012-01-13T15:04:30.731+05:30

You are bang on about the experiences faced by women - and let me tell you Mumbai is still one of the better cities - try Delhi and you will understand what I mean. And the reason is also right - because we feel ashamed, even though we are the victims. The miscreants on the other hand, go back to their other pervert friends and BOAST about what they did! The ones who should be ashamed is just not!

What you say is absolutely true. I have faced this...

2012-01-11T07:48:22.397+05:30

What you say is absolutely true. I have faced this kind of brushing against the thighs, men trying to squeeze boobs and try to rub their bodies against yours especially when traveling in crowded trains and buses in Mumbai. These days I don't have to take public transport often, but perverts will stare or still try tricks. I keep a pepper spray in my purse and am willing to raise an alarm and attract attention. Once I had punched a man in his groin region in a bus too and turned around to give him angry looks. I think all perverts really must be sent to hell. And all women face this!

Neha I hope this helps..2 years ago my husband bou...

2012-01-10T16:47:26.289+05:30

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Very well said, Perverts Should GO and DIE!!!!!!!

2012-01-10T12:01:39.708+05:30

Very well said, Perverts Should GO and DIE!!!!!!!

Lot of actions here on comment page :) You know wh...

2012-01-09T22:01:31.202+05:30

Lot of actions here on comment page :) You know what I would say :)

Take care

the first time it happened, I too was shocked beyo...

2012-01-09T21:48:36.991+05:30

the first time it happened, I too was shocked beyond my wits, but the second time I glared and asked him to move away. It's so disgusting... whenever I recall my pinching incident, it drives me crazy in anger. well written Neha, very bold and well articulated.

Experienced similar things and yes, it's disgu...

2012-01-09T17:35:58.484+05:30

Experienced similar things and yes, it's disgusting. I too have had to leave my previous job as my boss made advances towards me and when I complained against him, everyone turned against me. I stood my stand and left only after finding a better job with a reputed and big organization.

Since in Delhi, I have been a victim many times and try to be safe and follow certain rules I have made for myself. Also, I carry a pepper spray which is always in my hands when I am walking/commuting alone, especially in crowded places. At any time that I feel a person following me or doing anything untoward, I shout at them. And I don't care what others may think.

Get yourself a pepper spray; you'd feel more at ease when alone. And don't give a damn to such people. They are everywhere!

It's nothing but the Indian culture. Women hav...

2012-01-09T12:02:34.744+05:30

It's nothing but the Indian culture. Women have been downtrodden in our culture for centuries and these people haven't learned. Vivek said something very true. It's basically because of the upbringing that most men in India recieve. Either they're used to looking at women as simply a sex object or they don't have the cultural backing to treat them as equals.

Buy some mace and follow what Demure said. I do believe she would be right. And never be afraid to slap such a pervert right between the eyes in public. Do not be afraid to lash out.
Our strange society needs this post.

I would say,you are brave to have described the in...

2012-01-09T07:18:36.813+05:30

I would say,you are brave to have described the incidents you have faced.A lot of girls dont and suffer in silence.
Also, lets not think this happens in Mumbai only.It is just there every wher,all over.
Yes,all men are not perverts.

I'm a bangalorean and these things sometimes d...

2012-01-09T00:16:50.633+05:30

I'm a bangalorean and these things sometimes do happen. My girlfriend was also a victim of verbal abuse. That's why cops here set the party time limit to 10pm. This stuff usually happens only in developing countries like ours. I lived in juelich(germany) for a year and the situation there is pretty different. There are perverts there, agreed, but they dont dare to do anything there because they know that moments later, they ll be behind bars. The reason why this happens here is coz the mannerless jerks just dont care bout law or cops. Take it from me, the moment cops start throwing these goons behind bars for eve teasing, this stuff will stop ^^ . Blame it on the country. I'm serious.

I read one blog post of a girl, there she wrote , ...

2012-01-08T19:50:49.108+05:30

I read one blog post of a girl, there she wrote , one man pressed her bbs in the street and he ran ...but she catch him and beat in his face with her footwear......while doing these things, the public watching all like a circus in the street...so pathetic

They are everywhere sadly! I get eye-rape each tim...

2012-01-08T18:49:46.865+05:30

They are everywhere sadly! I get eye-rape each time in public transports as u said without revealing clothes. They can be really imaginative! Perverts. Its okay to be sexist in this, they deserve it. I find it really cheap and desperate for them to do so. Though not all men are perverts.

Thanks for the wonderful write up!

Very well articulated Neha! I can understand very ...

2012-01-08T16:57:54.549+05:30

Very well articulated Neha! I can understand very well as I have gone through similar incidences. Its disgusting. And you are right. One does feel embarrassed to mention such things to others.
I would request you to remove word verification please!You can have comment moderation instead.

oye not many gurls are willing to share such incid...

2012-01-08T16:31:49.792+05:30

oye not many gurls are willing to share such incidents so make yourself a peg and CHEERS! wish all women came out and talked like you.about the men you talked about, no1 can change the way a person thinks.its downright ridiculous

Hi there, it’s been a while since I’ve read your b...

2012-01-08T16:05:34.000+05:30

Hi there, it’s been a while since I’ve read your blog and today when I bumped here..this post blew my mind away not for the reason that this is something new but for the reason that it is an indication of never-ending stories like these in our society. I’m a little more than distraught with such malign acts of disgraceful men. This also makes me think about the root-causes of such incidences. The culture that we showcase to the outside world is it really the way we project? Mind you “culture” is a big word and a lot of things can be manipulated while you try to understand my point, but do refrain because I’m pinpointing on the gap that we have created between the men and the women. On paper, we might go ga-ga over our equality and our respect for the women, but how much does it matches to the real Indian society. What makes a total stranger touch a woman’s butt? From where does he gain such courage? Why even in a public place surrounded by 100s of people woman refrains from calling for help? Have we completely lost our trust in law and humanity? Do such pervert men really think an ordinary woman can’t stand against them? I must admit these bothersome alarming questions are erupting in my mind since last of couple hours after reading this post. Trust me it all will boil down to one reason that men think they are men and women is just …a women!! You might be gifted enough to be born and brought in a good educated family, you might have achieved the best of education to overcome such extreme dogmas of society, but outside your family will you assure that a richshaw-wala or that bastard in the crowd who touched a woman’s body had the same upbringing to give women the equal status. Beyond culture, it is in the environment where we do not feel safe, where we refrain from raising the voice and where we hardly trust the law. I do not say there aren’t perverts in the world, there are for sure, but it is the fearlessness that our environment offers provoke them to do such ridiculous inhumane acts. My apologies if you feel being a man I’m simply trying to advocate reasons for such disgracefulness as someone commented, but my intent is different. I'm glad you bring up things like these over a public platform and not just seek answers but also reminds the people of the darker side of our society that most of us keep forgetting. I truly appreciate it.

Hi Neha, I tried posting a comment on your blog,...

2012-01-08T15:13:17.931+05:30

Hi Neha,

I tried posting a comment on your blog, but blogger didn't open the comment box at all. Your experience is shared by women all over the country and age is no bar. In fact, even when you raise your voice and ask for support, no one opens their mouth or add a word of support. So most of the time the girl or woman keeps quiet. I have always been one of the vocal ones and create a scene no matter if I get support or not.

What is nice to note in your post is that your anger at the miscreants has not made you hate all men. I have hope for this generation yet :)

Love

Zephyr

1. when in public SHOUT at the miscreant. 2. lear...

2012-01-08T14:22:10.224+05:30

1. when in public SHOUT at the miscreant.

2. learn HINDI expletives.Must. (english ones don't help..Once i was caught in a situation.. where i abused in english and the rickshaw fella abused and threatened in hindi.. of which i hardly ever UNDERSTOOD any.)

3. Be strong.Its not just Mumbai..its everywhere.You are talking to a victim.

4. Be safe. :* Its a girl to girl advice..and for all the men 'advocating reasons' for this disgraceful act ..get a LIFE.

xxx

P.S. You are not a feminist. You are just losing your trust on men. Pray that you meet someone who rekindles the trust in your heart. :)

Whatever Neha has written is true, and everybody k...

2012-01-08T05:32:46.165+05:30

Whatever Neha has written is true, and everybody knows it (boys and girls) or let me say men and woman.
I think one of the reasons for this to happen is the close environment in which a boy in India grows up (protected and "guarded" by parents) When he finally gets to interact with the society (especially of the opposite sex) he goes haywire.
As for Rickshaw drivers, the less said the better. If you have to complain about the R drivers in Mumbai, then you should see the samples here in Pune. And if you want to experience the extreme, then take a walk in Delhi after dusk.
Boss. Yes that is one category who thinks he is the sole authority to do anything. I know of a girl who really belted out at the boss when she realised (and confirmed) that he was quitting the job (yes she had to wait till then, maybe for the fear of being harassed/troubled by the boss if she had to open her mouth earlier)

top of this, when girls get support in crowd, they...

2012-01-08T01:37:28.535+05:30

top of this, when girls get support in crowd, they don't raise their voice.

and then keep crying foul all elsewhere. as if that will help.

Big city or small city, perverts are there everywh...

2012-01-08T00:56:31.657+05:30

Big city or small city, perverts are there everywhere..after joing my first job at hyderabad, I could visit my hometown only after 3 months. After all the travelling through hyderabad and bangalore(a mishap actually)and tamilnadu, when I fainally reached palakkad , in the ksrtc bus, a guy touched my buttocks and I realised "I reached kerala". Man, I just wish I could shoot all those bastards who have such nerve disease.